In your initial letter, you should provide the following information:
· Your full name
· Your full address
· Your age, height, and weight
· Your email address
· Children you have and their ages
· Anyone who lives with you (family, roommates, etc.)
· Your marital status (presumably single)
· Your occupation
· Your hobbies and interests
· Description of your lifestyle
· Description of where you live
· Your personality
· Your goals in life
· Your expectations of your wife
· If you are interested in having children with her
· Why you are looking for a Russian woman
· Your feelings about religion
· If you have serious health problems
· Let her know if you own your own home
· Let her know that you can support a family
· Tell her you are serious about getting married
Things you should not do in your letters:
· Don't use slang or colloquialisms
· Don't use words or phrases she is not going to understand
· Don't try to explain difficult concepts – keep things simple
· Don't talk about your problems with women
· Don't talk about other problems in your life
· Don't talk about other women or other Russian women
· Don't talk about sex
· Don't talk negatively about anything – if possible, say things in a positive manner rather than negative (e.g. "I like simple wholesome food," rather than "I hate ethnic food.")
· Don't try to impress her with the things you have. You want her to want you for who you are, not what you own.
· Don't bad mouth other men who are writing to her or try to discourage her from writing to them.
When writing your first few letters to a woman, begin the letters with 'Hello' or 'Hi' and her name. Do not use 'Dear' as it will be translated literally into the Russian. To her, you will appear extremely forward.
You don't even know her and you are calling her a name similar to 'Honey' or 'Darling.' English speaking people use the introductory word 'Dear' when they are writing a complaint letter or sending a letter to a person they are suing in court.
If you think about it, it's almost insane to use the word 'Dear' so generally. But it is a custom we learn habit and as such is an unconscious habit. It's so unconscious; we do it even when it sounds absurd.
It's about as unconscious of a thought process as putting Braille letters on a drive up teller machine, or when executioner's use an alcohol swab before the give a condemned convict a lethal injection (is he really concerned about the threat of infection at that point!)
You don't need to be Superman to impress her. You only need to be a normal guy. Unlike western women, who seem to be looking for somebody out of the ordinary, Russian women are more likely to be attracted to someone who has a regular job, has average looks, who has no bad habits, who likes a cozy home life and children.
If you are reliable, faithful, kind, honest, stable, you are everything she is looking for. It may sound ironic, but if you sound too wonderful, it may decrease your chances with a woman. She may feel that she doesn't deserve you or that you are out of her league.
Russian women suffer from a lack of self-confidence. A lot of it has to do with how single women are perceived in Russia. Don't overwhelm her, or you may scare her away.
John has been married to a Russian women for over five years. He has travelled the path from finding her, to traveling to Russia, to bring his wife to America, and adjusting to married life. He will show you step by step how to do this yourself.
